As human beings, we have our own dissatisfaction.
As an unique individual, we all share different views and perspectives.
In short, we do not always agree with one another and complaints are inevitable.
What if this was between two good friends?
Does releasing your geram-ness towards the good friend to someone else equivalent to bitching about him/her?
And they say you should never bitch about your friends.
So does that mean you either tell it straight to her face or swallow it and get on with your life?
But sometimes all you want is just to get things off your chest,
Not a solution.
Eelaine Boo said,
22 April, 2008 at 6:48 pm
Sometimes telling it straight to their faces might do more harm than good cuz not everyone can take that kind of brutal honesty. It might hurt the friendship in some ways. But it really depends cuz I have a couple of friends whom I’m really, really close to and I can be really honest and I know they would not take offence. So yeah, it really depends on who is it.
I also have friends who told me to be honest with them but when I am, they get offended at my words. :S
Otherwise I’ll just suck in it and be the bigger person. (: But I do agree with you, it is not a solution to keep going to others to release the kegeraman.
chino said,
22 April, 2008 at 10:33 pm
Yes. I do get what you mean.
At times, you just need someone (who isn’t involved) to just be there to listen to whatever you are geram (what do you call it in english anyway?) at. This does not mean you hate your friend, it’s just that you are not agreeing at that lil thing he or she has said/done.
I guess it isn’t much of a bitching moment if you are sharing it with certain people whom you are close to, and not the whole wide world.
But of course the best way is to confront that said person about it. Suck it in and you might just go cuckoo one day
Joyce said,
23 April, 2008 at 2:44 am
i dunno how to answer this… how ah?
chuisan said,
23 April, 2008 at 5:42 pm
first thing first… have u been using wordpress all along? *blur*
depends la, by now u should be able to judge if the person can take honesty or prefer sugar coated words. you can tell your problems by telling her straight or twist 360 degree vertically and then face 110 degree obtuse and then another 720 degree anti clockwise before reaching ur point… in a fashionable manner.
anyway, why everywhere i go also ppl talk abt bitching wan T______________T so ngam.
Bo said,
23 April, 2008 at 5:51 pm
i BITCH about my frens all the time, if they’re your true frens they will bitch back too, and be able to laugh about it, huhu
jessica (shh) said,
24 April, 2008 at 11:29 pm
geram er..frustration?
any talking done without someone’s knowledge which doesn’t involve praising or complimenting that said person is somehow considered under bitching – complaining, ranting, just harmless talking about someone, backstabbing, picking on someone’s negative traits, conjuring stories from nowhere, twisting situations, exaggerating etc. so long as we do ANY one of it, it’s labelled as bitching. which is really unfair cause to me (TO ME only la), as long as it’s the truth, it doesn’t constitute as bitching. unless u pick on someone just for the sake of it la. and if u tell the whole world about it then yeah that’s clearly bitching.
if she’s someone who thinks highly of herself, then telling it to her face won’t do much good. if she’s a girl who usually accepts criticism without any hard feelings (and without pretending she’s ok with it but then bitches about u after that) then tell her gently, not in an accusing manner. and if it isn’t a solution u want (coz sometimes we just can’t do anything about it can we), complain once, because telling someone helps, and usually after u reenact the story, it isn’t as serious as u thought it was and u realise that and feel foolish, but then never bring it up again (those who do are soooo annoying) and move on.
<3
liping said,
28 April, 2008 at 1:38 am
haiya gossip onlyla.. as long as u dont do it in like an overtly serious/mean spirited way lo.. just jokey jokey that kind.. then after that u’ll feel so much better…
kattyK said,
2 May, 2008 at 7:26 pm
hey this is totally random but wheres the spam lil box? and please tag away my blog please. its like dead for ages k? hahaha anyways back to exams -.-
Yenli said,
3 May, 2008 at 11:50 pm
chuisan:
was from livejournal
kattyK:
noted!